They didnt like me... at first How to confidently overcome your fear of rejection and build friendships and clients that truly connect.
They never liked me. At first.
If they don’t like you too – it’s 100% normal!
That’s because the human brain 🧠 of anyone you meet wont want to accept someone or something new. It’s like a reflex. It literally feels pain adapting to new information and people when it’s already comfortable.
But that feeling doesnt last! You can play the human brain 🧠 like a video game 🎮.
I have SO much experience being new and excluded for that reason alone – but it built character and an openness and confidence around new people that is unparalleled.
– When I was “the new kid at 14 different schools”, I didnt have anyone to sit with at lunch and had to try to make new friends, they didnt like me.
– When I started a business, selling to new companies and cold calling their booths at trade shows, they didnt like me.
– When I pitched a new contract to a competitor to pay me commission for new business, they didnt like me.
But they never do… at first.
The best part of rejection therapy (being rejected over and over again) is that you realize:
1. Although it’s painful when it happens, it isn’t permanent. You will get over it. You only learn that AFTER you push past the initial rejection and keep showing up.
2. People can be convinced. You just need to keep showing up with confidence and adaptability. Just by showing up content, changing nothing else, their feelings will change.
According research, it takes an average of 8 touches to get an initial meeting (or other conversion) with a new prospect in business.
It’s the same making new friends.
You have to keep showing up – acting as if youre already friends.
Eventually they will recognize you, trust you, feel comfortable with you and MOST will even love you!
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If you are feeling left out, alone or in need of deeper connections – YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I’ve been there.
If you’re seeking to grow your business and break through to new clients – it’s the same rules of engagement.
You can create new relationships where people like you LITERALLY by continuing to show up, unphased by being new, aligned with your best self.
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